Experience Intimacy From A Place Of Comfort In Your Own Skin

GOLD SOUL PROCESS

Are you longing for more emotional, physical, sexual, and spiritual intimacy in your relationships?

Would you like to fulfill those longings?

Do you ever shut down aspects of your authentic expression because you believe they won't be accepted and loved?

Do you want to feel confident in sharing all of who you are?

Do you find yourself sharing your time, energy, love or money in ways that you don't really want to?

Would you like to feel more agency, choice, and clarity in how you design your life and relationships?

Do you find yourself struggling with codependence, people pleasing, and giving your power away?

Would you like to experience truly respectful, balanced, soul-nourishing, empowered and FUN relating?

Do you long to release the burdens that are not yours to carry (including other people’s stuff), and connect more with yourself?

Would you like to create the time and space to feel, share, and ENJOY the pure gold of your own essence?

The essence of your soul, aka the "GOLD" that exists under all the conditioning, trauma, and shame, is available to be remembered and reclaimed. Allowing yourself be reflected, affected, and refined by exchanges of authentic intimacy is an alchemical process that will polish you back to your original essence.

It is the embodiment of that essence that will attract aligned relationships and a deep sense of belonging.

Hi Friends, I'm Ashley Berry and I support people to embody healthy boundaries as a means to heal shame, build self esteem, and experience true intimacy and belonging in their relationships.

One of the unique pillars of my work is that I show up with you fully for the duration of our container with deep presence, care and consistency, to give you an experience of secure attachment that supports you to re-wire your own attachment system towards more security. Secure attachment increases your capacity for sustained connection and intimacy.

"I appreciated your ability to traverse being facilitator while also being able to embody different roles, and be authentically yourself in our container. It felt deeply human and equalizing. Considering that I wanted to work on power roles within myself, and my inner domme. That dynamic really helped me to find that. Your availability was really nourishing and helped with any feelings of nervousness." - Katie

When I say "intimacy", I don't just mean romance, sex, or heartfelt conversation - although this process will support your expansion in all those realms.

I mean experiencing closeness with all of life, including and especially in your relationship to yourself.

“Until You Make The Unconscious Conscious It Will Direct Your Life and You Will Call It Fate.”

C.G. Jung

In order to make changes in our relational and attachment styles, we first have to become conscious of where we are stuck, how we self sabotage, what coping strategies we default to when we are scared, and what is preventing us from being able to truly let ourselves be seen, heard and loved. It's easy and understandable to feel that we are fated to fail in relationships. I can safely say from first hand experience that regardless of how much we've struggled in relationships, transformation and true intimacy is possible.

I Want To Experience More Intimacy In My Life

The Gold Soul Process was birthed out of my own experience of recovering from crippling shame, codependence, deep loneliness, and struggles with boundaries and intimate relationships. The process synergizes the empowerment, play, consent, erotic embodiment, and shadow work tools I've learned in my work as a Professional Dominatrix, with two decades of training and practice in somatic work, mindfulness, emotional regulation and intimacy skills, and conscious communication practices.

This process will help you approach desire, communication, embodiment and boundaries practices as tools that will help you define and occupy your space in the world. Your space in the world can also be described as your "eco-niche," (a term coined by Jungian Psychologist and Soul Guide, Bill Plotkin) aka your unique role in the ecosystem of all things.

Eco-niche is a definition of Soul.

In essence, Gold Soul is a process of connecting with and embodying your own sovereign soul, and from that foundation creating soul-led relationships that acknowledge, respect, and honor the sovereign choice and power of the individual souls participating in the relationship.

This process focuses on discovering the boundaries that create the container or vessel within which you can cultivate a sense of home within yourself, and a sense of safety and playfulness within that home.

When you feel at home in your own skin, you can choose intimate connections with others from a place of discernment, non-attachment, emotional maturity, and excitement, rather than from loneliness, desperation, cultural/external expectations, or codependent need.

Offerings

GOLD SOUL OFFERINGS

embodied
self
mastery
track

A 1:1 JOURNEY TO ENCOUNTER AND DEEPEN IN LOVE WITH YOUR WHOLE SELF BY EMBRACING YOUR AUTHENTIC BOUNDARIES, DESIRES, VALUES, GIFTS AND THE JOYS OF RADICAL SELF-RESPONSIBILITY

FOR THOSE WHO ARE EXCITED TO DISCOVER HOW GETTING MORE INTIMATE WITH YOURSELF SERVES ALL YOUR RELATIONS.

BENEFITS INCLUDE:

Feeling more connected to your body-based sensing, feeling, and knowing.
Getting to take a break from holding space for others and relax into being held and attuned to by a present and loving guide.
Experiencing more safety, emotional maturity, and self-regulation/self-parenting skills.
Shifting perspective from seeing what needs to be "fixed" or "saved," into perceiving and enjoying what is intact and magical inside you and those you love.
The refinement of your ability to identify and confidently communicate your boundaries, needs and desires.
The reclamation of your erotic wholeness, pleasure, authentic self-expression, and power.

I'm Ready For a Sovereign Journey

embodied
relational
mastery
track

A 1:1 JOURNEY TO CULTIVATE THE SKILLS, CONFIDENCE, AND DISCERNMENT TO CULTIVATE MUTUALLY FULFILLING INTIMACY IN PLATONIC, ROMANTIC, FAMILIAL AND PROFESSIONAL RELATIONSHIPS

FOR THOSE LOOKING TO HONE RELATIONAL SKILLS AND LEARN TO CREATE THE MOST ALIGNED FORM OF RELATING FOR ANY CONNECTION.

BENEFITS INCLUDE:

Increased proficiency in navigating consent, and experiencing how truly attuned, consensual relating, creates potent relational flow states.
Learning to accept the capacities and limitations of your loved ones, so you can cultivate the intimacy that is available, in any dynamic.
Feeling met in your already high level of relational skills, thus establishing a new norm of how it's possible to be related with by others.
Reaching new depths in your own capacity and mastery.
Building skills of forgiveness, repair, compassion, and loving accountability.
Releasing relationships that no longer feel nourishing, and create space for/nurture those that do.
Cracking the code on why you are attracting people who are not a good fit, and learning how to recognize and connect with your soul family.

I'm ready for an intimacy journey

embodied
intimacy
immersion
for couples

THIS IMMERSION IS GREAT FOR COUPLES, LOVERS, POLYCULES, AND THOSE WHO ARE WANTING TO EXPLORE AND EXPAND THEIR INTIMACY TOGETHER WITH A GUIDE.

FOR THOSE WHO ARE DESIRING MORE INTIMACY, CREATIVITY, PLAY, AND MAGIC IN THEIR CURRENT RELATIONSHIPS.

BENEFITS INCLUDE:

Greater emotional maturity, conscious communication skills, and relational harmony.
Learning a playful approach to triggers and conflict resolution.
Permission and inspiration to explore your erotic or kinky side with clarity, safety, and creativity.
Understanding your ideal relationship structure and consciously choose what's right for YOU along the spectrum of monogamy and non-monogamy.
Refine your negotiation skills, create clear agreements, and learn to look for the win/win, rather than defaulting to compromise.
More pleasurable, consent-based, embodied relationships.

I'm ready for a shared jourey

ALL IMMERSIONS INCLUDE:

4 months of sessions, 3 times per month (12 sessions total) at 75 minutes each, virtually or in person.
Holistic approach to developing secure attachment with self and others, including working with the body, nervous system, attachment system, the unconscious, nature connection, current relationship dynamics, spirituality, and soul.
Customized rituals, guided meditations, and home play assignments (much more fun than home"work"!)
Ongoing contact and support between sessions, via your choice of text, email, voice memo, or video messaging.
The experience of being closely tracked, attuned to, compassionately reflected, and held with loving accountability to show up for your intentions and desires, over time.
BONUS: Erotic Intimacy sampler with orientation to various relating games, kink toys, introduction to power dynamics play, and suggestions/guidance for ways to spice up your sex life that are catered to your specific interests!
BONUS: Option for hands on healing work for somatic integration and nervous system support (for in-person clients).
BONUS: A transformational kink/BDSM or personal empowerment session with my Dominatrix alter ego.
BONUS: Discounts on group workshops and events for the duration of your coaching container, as a way to enhance education, transformation, integration, and most of all community connection.
BONUS: Customized DJ Set to bring further inspiration and embodiment to your journey.
A closing initiation ritual to mark the transition into this next, even more whole version of your Self/your relationships.
An ongoing resource list for you to keep and return to, over and over again.
Option for single session ongoing guidance/mentorship upon completion of the process.

"I worked with Ashley during a critical time of exploring how to build healthy boundaries in relationships in order to heal generational trauma and build better connections with those I love and care about. With her deep and knowledgeable expertise, every session brought new insights I was able to process intellectually, emotionally, and somatically. The lessons learned allowed me to create transformative, healthy change in relationships with others and with myself. Highly, highly recommend." --Tricia

“Your no makes the way for your yes. Boundaries create the container within which your yes is authentic. Being able to say no makes yes a choice.”

― Adrienne Maree Brown,

Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good

About

About ASHLEY BERRY

I blend my background in psychology, expressive movement, spiritual activism, and conscious communication practices, with my work as a dominatrix to create containers that explore radical acceptance, erotic wholeness, and embodied power as pathways to deeper intimacy with self and other. In every aspect of my own journey, including situations when have felt resistant to boundaries, I have discovered the necessity of healthy boundaries and clear containers for truly safe and consensual intimacy and soul expression.

Training and experience:

BA in Psychology
Somatic Integrative Trauma Training through The Embody Lab
Integrative Somatic Parts Work Training with Fran D. Booth, through The Embody Lab
Currently Enrolled: Somatic Attachment Therapy through The Embody Lab
200 hour Hatha Yoga Teacher Training with Nirvana Yoga
200 hour Thai Massage Certified with the Thai Massage Circus
Various forms of technical, psychological, and ethical BDSM training
Certification in Eco-Ministry through Seminary of the Wild
6 month Lightworker Incubator with Inner Sun Alchemy
20 hour Non-Violent Communication Training
20 hour Family Constellations training with Leslie Nipps
20 hour Craniosacral therapy training with Julie Franklin
Way of Council Level 2 Certified facilitator with The Ojai Foundation
200 hour Herbalism Apprenticeship with Blazing Star Herbal School
100 hour Authentic Movement Training with Contemplative Dance
Ritual Design Certification with Victoria Markham
Experience and study with The Animas Institute
10+ years of Contact Improvisation training and practice
Ancestral Healing Training with Dr. Daniel Foor
Disrupting Our Whiteness Training with Holistic Resistance
20 years of various study in somatic, intuitive, and mindfulness modalities, and plant medicine work.

In addition to my professional training, so much of what I bring to my transformational containers is rooted in a lifetime of study and experience in:

How to love myself and nurture my nervous system into secure attachment
Learning and practicing consent
Personal, relational and ancestral healing work
Cultivating lasting and fulfilling relationships with an extensive community of friends, lovers, romantic partners, clients, colleagues, collaborators, family, earth, and spirit.

My work is rooted in my own submission/surrender to something bigger, that supports me to deeply listen to, perceive, and reflect you with compassion, care, and loving accountability balanced with radical permission. Whether we integrate conscious kink into our sessions or not, I will always bring the gifts of the dominatrix archetype into my role as a guide: boundaries, attunement, clarity, courage, play, a clear container, and a practice of continually inviting you into your power as the agent and driver of your own process.

I lead with curiosity about what makes you YOU and what supports you to step into more freedom of expression and connection to your pleasure body as an intelligent instrument that holds all the information you need to align yourself with your authentic desires.

As for me, for years I struggled with my own codependent conditioning, people pleasing, ADHD symptoms, relationship challenges, fear of intimacy, financial blocks, unprocessed trauma, and confusion about my own needs, desires, and purpose.

Therapy containers, embodiment work, and mindfulness practices supported me to feel more grounded and resourced to meet all of these challenges with more presence and self-compassion.

However, it wasn't until I began working with the Dominatrix archetype, and cultivating a focus towards play and erotic embodiment, that I was able to gain real traction in healing sexual and relationship trauma, building leadership skills, changing my relationship to money, making friends with my various parts, knowing my inherent worth, accessing joy, and establishing clear boundaries and structure that allow me to stay centered in the seat of my own power: Not power over, but power within, and power together.

Of course, this is an ongoing task for me, and I lead from the knowing that one of the most powerful places to guide from, is an experiential knowing of the terrain, combined with a willingness to be together at our respective growth edges. So I am here in the work with you, as a witness and guide and also as a fellow human in process.